Self-Defense is Found in the Simple Things

At Barnes Martial Arts, we teach self-defense -- but not like other Martial Arts studios. We teach that self-defense -- real self-defense, genuine self-defense -- transcends the physical; it is more than knowing how to kick or punch, or wrestle someone on the ground. Yes, we teach our students -- adults and children -- how to physically, effectively protect themselves from dangerous people and situations. What kind of school would we be if we did not? But we also teach that when it comes to safety, escape is nearly always the first, best choice; fighting is a last resort. Using verbal techniques and body language to reduce or deescalate incidences of potential violence is another area we address.

 Since "self-defense" forms the greatest part of our curriculum, we have an inherent responsibility to our students, their families, our community, and to our own integrity to ensure their protection in any area of their lives. 

If all one knows is mayhem and physical violence, they may be a "fighter" (and I harbor personal doubts even about that), but they are not a Martial Artist. Real Martial Arts balances the efforts of the body, with practices of the mind and heart. Just as important, therefore, we teach that self-defense is found in the simplest of things.

Fitness may be the ultimate self-defense for the body. Unfortunately it may also be the most overlooked. Martial Arts can be part of an overall healthy lifestyle; but ... you can take the most effective, deadly, infallible, butt-kicking art on the planet ( is there such a thing?) and put in to hands of an obese, out-of-shape, unfit, can-barely-move individual and it becomes virtually useless. Like a high-performance or luxury car, the human body requires a continuous supply of high-quality fuel (see Good Food, below) and oxygen to keep running at maximum efficiency. If you put in cheap, low-grade fuel, there is a good chance both will become sluggish or break down. The difference is if the car breaks down you can get a new one ... the only body you will ever have is the one you were born with, so it benefits you to defend it properly. Like the red lights on your car's dashboard, pay attention to the signals your body is sending -- pain, weakness, fever, nausea, etc. A little preventative maintenance can save, and is preferable to, a ton of after-care. At Barnes Martial Arts we suggest regular exercise -- a minimum of 30 minutes/day, 3 days/week (Martial Arts are great exercise .. hint, hint); get plenty of sleep; eat healthy -- avoid sugar, excessive alcohol, fried and highly processed foods; and drink plenty of fresh, clean water. Just as taking care of your automobile can ensure that it runs in top condition for many years and hundreds of thousands of miles, smartly keeping your body fit leads to a longer, more pleasant, productive life. 

Kindness, for example; kindness is a beautiful form of self-defense. Kindness, without expectation of reward, payment or even personal benefit, is self-defense for the heart and soul. It is our studio philosophy that if we want a kinder world, we must all be an active part of the solution. It is not enough to "talk the talk", we must "walk the walk". Accordingly, we instruct students to take our lessons "Out of the Dojo, Into the World".

Good food --and the appreciation of it; there’s a fine, fine kind of self-defense. Our Western diet -- highly processed, full of artificial flavors, colors and preservatives, and high in sodium, fat and calories -- is killing us. We lead the world in chronic obesity, diabetes and heart disease. Therefore, clean healthy eating, mindfulness of what goes into our bodies, and an emphasis on fresh, wholesome vegetables, fruits and lean protein, will do as much -- perhaps more -- to protect us from harm than knowing how to punch someone in the face.

Oh, and how about love of community? Participation in --and love for --one’s community is a kind of self-defense that’s impossible to put a value on. Why? Because we're all in this Life together and only for a relatively short time. Two of the definitions of community are: (A) "a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals", and (B) "a group of interdependent organisms of different species growing or living together in a specified habitat". By getting along, seeking out similarities and establishing common ground, by promoting peace and harmony, and helping one another, instead of constantly being at loggerheads because of perceived differences, we benefit ourselves and future generations. 

And my favorite kind of self-defense, by far, is found in a simple rule, The Golden Rule: "Treat others as you would want them to treat you." The reasons why this is important should be obvious.

Simple. And simply perfect.

At Barnes Martial Arts, we like Tom Callos’ (www.tomcallos.com) description of self-defense too: “Self-defense isn’t only about personal protection, it’s about taking care of the people around you and the place you live as well.”

And of course, self-defense training at our Studio is all you already imagined it to be, but with this particular attitude about it, self-defense becomes about living a good life. What a great idea.

For information about our school and self-defense lessons for today’s world, check us out on Facebook (here), contact us at barnesmartialarts@yahoo.com or give us a shout at (570) 332-4377. (CREDIT: This post was inspired by and adapted from the writings of my mentor, Tom Callos, of the100.me (here) and the Ultimate Black Belt Test (here). Thank you, Tom, for your wisdom, insight, and continuing guidance.).

THE ULTIMATE BLACK BELT TEST

The following article was written by Tom Callos, a Martial Artist whom I have looked up to for many years. Tom is a 6th degree Black Belt and for the last year and a half or so, I have considered him my mentor. I speak with him frequently, not only about ideas for growing the school, but how to make the studio a more relevant, contributing presence in our community. 
Tom has a unique view on the Martial Arts -- one which I share. We both believe that Martial Arts is a singular vehicle for personal transformation.

Tom created the concept of the Ultimate Black Belt Test with, I believe, the intention of showing the widest possible potential for the Martial Arts to affect change, personally, professionally, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. To my knowledge, nothing of this breadth or scope has ever been attempted in the industry; it is a return to authenticity.

It is my goal to participate in an upcoming UBBT.  

I hope you enjoy his thoughts on the Ultimate Black Belt Test. 

Curriculum for The Ultimate Black Belt Test 2016

By Tom Callos

First, An Overview of What the UBBT Seeks to Accomplish

If I begin with the end in mind, one of Stephen Covey’s "7 Habits of Highly Effective People from the book of the same name, I can tell you almost exactly what I’m looking for from participants in The Ultimate Black Belt Test (UBBT):

I’m looking for a complete physical transformation from those members who come to the test with a need for that. I expect every participant to use the year (or longer) that they engage the UBBT to come out of it in the best shape of their life --or as close as they are able to come to it. To transform oneself physically, in a way that isn’t unhealthy or unwise, requires careful scrutiny of diet, exercise, rest, and training methods --and I want UBBT graduates to be able to show their students, their community, and the international martial arts community that they know, from experience, how to engage and facilitate physical transformation. The ultimate black belt would be / should be a living example of the physical benefits of their practice.

Members of the UBBT must have extraordinary and/or highly polished martial arts skills. I have no attachment to any style or method, so I don’t care if someone practices aikido, karate, jiu-jitsu, judo, taekwondo, or MMA, participants must come to the final exam with thousands of hours of practice under their belt. Regardless of the physical talent of any martial artist, every black belt can find what they love to do and do well and bring that game to their UBBT. Without extraordinary martial arts skills developed through the shedding of blood, sweat, and tears, there would be nothing “ultimate” about the Ultimate Black Belt Test.

The impact of the UBBT on a participant must, in part, be measured by the way the test affects the people in the tester’s sphere of influence. The ultimate test isn’t one that affects the tester alone, but that radiates out from the participant to have an impact on his or her family, friends, students, teachers, community, and ideally, to the international martial arts community. If you have an “amazing” test, one where you get in fantastic shape, where you set and meet many of your personal goals, and where you look the part of a serious and seriously trained martial artist, then you’ve achieved only a small fraction of what the UBBT is about. The ultimate test is measured by how what you put yourself through affects others.

The UBBT must engage the participant in new learning and/or the exploration of things presently unknown or unexplored. The ultimate test isn’t a rehashing of old skills or staying in the comfort zone of things without risk, the UBBT is to be used as a catalyst for new adventures and learning.

A participant in the UBBT must work in the realm of things important. I’m looking for accomplishment and/or program development involving environmental issues, sustainable living, health, diet, fitness training, social issues of importance, bully prevention, suicide prevention, art and design, architecture, and or any of the many subjects ignored, shunned, or otherwise absent from the martial arts community as it is today. I expect each UBBT member to champion one or more projects and/or subjects that enlighten, educate, cultivate, and expand the international martial arts community’s understanding of what the martial arts are --and how they can be used for good, out of the dojo and in the world.

Each UBBT member must make their test process public and as transparent as they are capable. Each tester must journal their progress or lack thereof, their victories and mistakes, and how their practice manifests itself in small daily actions. Without test transparency the members of the UBBT have little or no chance to use their own test process to affect the quality and/or practices of martial artists and others who live outside the realm of direct observation. In the end, the UBBT is a program designed to bring new ideas and practices to the international martial arts community, through the cultivation of transformation in the individuals engaged in the program.

A Review

Physical transformation + highly developed martial arts skills + impact on others + new learning and experiences + expanding the work to things important + transparent testing / journaling = a platform for the practices the tester engages in to create the ultimate test.

Cards & Letters for Blake Kitchen

This is a copy of an article I submitted to the local news media. I felt that our Studio did a good thing for Blake Kitchen; it came from the heart. We didn't do it to seek publicity. But after much consideration, I wrote this article for two reasons: (1) I am proud of each and every student who took valuable time away from their own lives to encourage and support a boy whom none of us know personally, but who just as easily could have been one of us. You are the future of Martial Arts ... not just in Northeast, PA but anywhere you go. It is nice knowing that the future will be one of  not just fighting skills but compassion, respect and community involvement; and (2) to highlight the tragedy of bullying. As I said in the article, bullying is an epidemic in this country; it affects millions of people of all ages, races, economic backgrounds and from all walks of life. Having experienced bullying in my youth, that breaks my heart.

Thank you for reading and, of course, please feel free to respond with your thoughts and comments. -- Master Gary R. Barnes

FORTY FORT MARTIAL ARTS STUDIO ORGANIZES CARD AND LETTER CAMPAIGN FOR BULLYING VICTIM

(FORTY FORT) What was it about an incident of bullying that occurred 900 miles away in Liberty, Missouri that motivated a Martial Arts instructor from NEPA to mobilize his students and their families to write cards and letters in support of the victim?
“When I was young I was bullied, too, mercilessly. I have students who were bullied. I personally know victims of bullying. So when I read Blake’s story on March 7, my heart went out to him,” says Master Gary R. Barnes, owner of Barnes Martial Arts in Forty Fort. “Like Blake, other victims of bullying – myself and some of my students included – know all too well what it is like to live in fear and to have those fears ignored by school administrators, who should know better. His experience deeply moved me.”

Blake Kitchen is a 12 year old sixth grader with Asperger’s Syndrome (a form of autism) at Liberty Middle School who was severely beaten by a school bully. The incident occurred when Blake arrived at school for breakfast. He took his usual spot in the cafeteria when another boy – an 8^th grader who at 200 pounds outweighed Blake by nearly 125 pounds – moved his belongings and took his seat. When Blake asked him to move, the other boy responded violently. The beating was so bad that it left him with a broken jaw, fractured skull, cuts and contusions and cerebrospinal fluid leaking from his ear. At one point the bully smashed his head off the cafeteria table until he passed out. Blake spent five days in the hospital and may require further surgery to repair damage to his ear.

“Bullying is an epidemic in this country,” says Barnes. “And like rape, it often goes under-reported.”

Because of the level of violence and lack of participation by school officials, Blake’s story is one that received national attention. Unfortunately, though, it is not atypical. The Bully Project, estimates that this year alone over 13 million American kids will be bullied at school, at home, on the bus and on their phones and computers. 3 million students are absent each month because they feel unsafe at school, and 1 in 4 teachers sees nothing wrong with bullying – taking the attitude that it is simply ‘kids being kids’, only intervening 4% of the time.

“What happened to Blake Kitchen could just as easily have happened here in Northeast PA,” Barnes cautions. “In fact, it has on a number of occasions. Blake Kitchen is us, is our children – I had to reach out to him and let him know that he isn’t alone.”

To that end, Barnes imparted the story and information to his students and their families, encouraging them to make and write cards and letters of encouragement. Barnes Martial Arts students and their families rallied to the cause by the dozens, contributing letters and cards signed by multiple students across different classes. Barnes broadcast the message on Facebook, by email and even going so far as to post online to the group page of the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation, of which he and the Studio are members. This resulted in even more cards and letters being sent from all over the United States and as far away as England and Australia.

     “If by doing this we can bring a 12 year old boy a small ray of hope and peace, and perhaps shine a light on the epic problem of bullying, then I’d say we have done a good thing.” Barnes says, “Bullying, in a very real sense, is what initially brought me to the Martial Arts, and bully prevention has been one of the driving focuses of my Studio. In order to do our part, we have either partnered with or utilize material developed by several leading experts in the field – Dave Kovar of Martial Artists Against Bullying and his groundbreaking Done with Bullying program; Tom Callos of the 100method; The Bully Project, among several others. We are very serious about confronting this issue, and while we could not prevent what happened to Blake, by writing to him we can let him know that the whole world isn’t like the person who victimized him.”

“Every month the Studio engages in a Kindness Mission, a group project designed to balance the physical techniques, the self-defense aspects of the Martial Arts with compassion, respect, and community outreach. Because of the experiences that have informed my life’s work, this card and letter campaign is one of the most personal for me,” Barnes continued. “More importantly, though, our students – everyone from four year olds to adults – saw the value and really stepped up. We have a truly amazing group of people here. Entire families got involved. A space was created to open up a dialogue on the nature of bullying and its far-reaching effects. Our school motto is ‘Out of the Dojo, Into the World’ and the students really rose to that. I couldn’t be prouder; they are making a quite difference in their communities and schools."

(A few of Barnes Martial Arts Little Dragons (ages 4-7) and their Cards for bullying victim Blake Kitchen. From left to right: Evan Harchar, Brayden Isaacs, Noah Gray. Missing from photo: McKena Harlen)

(Barnes Martial Arts Students Emma Lewis (l) and Barbara Lewis (r) and the cards they made for Blake Kitchen)

(Barnes Martial Arts Junior Students and the cards they made for bullying victim, Blake Kitchen. Kneeling, left to right: Michael Bonk, Jakr Ranieli, Ethan Edwards. Back row: Master Gary R. Barnes. Missing from photo: Sarah Feifer)